With so many unknowns in our ever-changing world, it may be tricky to find the right words to encourage seniors to focus on their health, especially when they are particularly weary or headstrong. If you are looking out for an older loved one—a parent, a spouse, a friend—and are not sure what to do or say, you are not alone. For those with older loved ones in your lives, here are some tips on how to talk to seniors about current events surrounding health and safety, and how they can stay healthy themselves.
Be factual without being alarmist.
Gently let your senior know the facts, but don’t hound them with endless statistics. The goal is to inform without alarming them. You might say, ”People ages 60 and older are at higher risk for heart disease. Doctors recommend avoiding sitting too long during the day and going on short walks each day. I care about you and I want you to stay healthy and safe.”
Share how you are taking health seriously.
Let older loved ones know that you too are following doctors’ recommendations, such as hygiene, social distancing, exercise, and prevention.. Share with them the reasons why we take health seriously and the benefits of being proactive. Ask them if they have any questions about your health suggestions and be ready to respond honestly.
Brainstorm together on ways to stay healthy.
You could start by asking them, “What is causing you the most anxiety during this time?” and come up with a plan for that. Are they new to a nursing home and are in need of more family visitations? Are they unsure of how to get more exercise? Strategize ways they can personally work towards bettering their health. Maybe they need to work on eating a more balanced diet or are in need of more nutrient-rich foods. Maybe they need more socialization for their stress levels or self esteem. Offer practical advice about ways they can implement these small changes into their lives, and maybe even make them goal-oriented!
Offer your help (again).
Sometimes it’s hard to ask for help, no matter how old you are. It’s never a bad idea to reassure them you’re actively here to help, and that you want to help. You might say, “We are always here to support one another. Please rely on me during this time.” What could be a tricky task for them might be quite simple for you, like placing an order online.
Prioritize self-care.
Prioritizing your own self-care time will also guide your seniors to do the same. You might say, “I am stressed with my workload this week and am in need of a break from my desk to reset. Would you like to take a walk with me around the block?” Exemplify the benefits of taking breaks and how it helps our mental and physical health.
Stay in touch.
If you’re not able to meet in-person due to being long distance, or are keeping a distance due to safety reasons, come up with a plan to connect regularly. Ask, “How often would you like me to call?” You could even text or video chat—whichever method they prefer. Inviting friends and neighbors their age to engage might help them stay motivated and reduce feelings of isolation.. The important thing to remember is to stay in touch, keep them motivated and understanding of the benefits and risks of their health, and remind them you’re always there to help!
About JFCS Pittsburgh Senior Services
Jewish Family and Community Services (JFCS) Pittsburgh offers a range of services and resources to help seniors maintain their independence while providing support to caregivers and loved ones. For more information, please call JFCS Senior Services at (412) 422-7200 or visit www.jfcspgh.org/senior-services.